OBSERVATIONS: - Generally friendly, happy, bubbly, quasi-flirty -- Slightly sexy body language -- Physically attractive --- Exercises regularly --- Formerly slightly overweight, yet still attractive -- Rises to the challenge of an independent lifestyle -- Prefers to be a very trusting / trustworthy person -- Responds well to affection / affirmation --- Will likely respond to affirmation, even when angry --- Very receptive to non-sexual affection --- Easily tempted by sexual pleasure, when not angry - Childhood trauma -- Abandoned at the age of 3 --- Seems to appreciate adopted family -- Possibly affects overall emotional health -- Possibly affects perception of sex -- Possibly affects perception of long-term relationships - Multiple former marriages to men -- Historically permissive of "unfair" relationships, at the expense of herself --- Relieved when the male partners expressed a desire to end the unfair relationship --- Unlikely to have ended them, herself -- Likely attempting to recognize and "move beyond" this tendency to tolerate unfairness - Has had previous sexual experiences with women -- This was many years ago -- Claims to no longer be bisexual --- Possible that she is now genuinely only interested in men - Indifferent toward having an orgasm during intercourse -- Demands emotional intimacy during intercourse -- Argumentatively contemptuous toward the suggestion that women should orgasm during intercourse --- Struggles to process any suggestion that there might be a balance between physical pleasure and emotional intimacy --- Has occasionally had an orgasm during intercourse, but usually does not - Does not receive pleasure from G-spot fingering -- Claims it is "uncomfortable pressure" -- Possible (?) slight physical derangement of vulval / vaginal area - Clitoris is very sensitive -- Orgasms unusually quickly from oral sex / fingers - Very unusually "wet" when aroused -- Body is possibly not receiving sexual satisfaction on a schedule that matches physical hormone levels --- Seems to shrug off the possibility that her body "needs" sexual pleasure --- Masturbates very infrequently - Short when angry -- Absolutely unable to calm self down -- Frequently uses "Stop talking" / "Don't say another word" -- Struggles to validate feelings of others -- Yet claims to value validation when happy -- Quick to reflexively accuse the other party of "gaslighting" -- Will continue aggressive verbal arguments in the presence of restaurant waiters -- Latent upset emotions can remain for several days - Would benefit from therapy/counseling -- Anger management --- (Stoic philosophy / Seneca) -- Communication --- (Validation of others' feelings) - Would benefit from mental health evaluation -- Specific concern: Borderline Personality Disorder - Needs good examples -- Especially of men -- Especially in the context of a long-term relationship -- Would benefit from female friends who respectfully challenge her opinions, and set a good conflict management standard